If Sight Was Leading Me, I Wouldn’t Marry My Wife – Pastor Paul Enenche Sparks Reactions

Nigerian pastor and founder of Dunamis International Gospel Centre, Dr. Paul Enenche, is currently trending on social media after making a controversial remark about his wife, Dr. Becky Enenche, during a recent sermon.

In his message, Pastor Enenche stated, “If sight was leading me, I wouldn’t have married my wife,” suggesting that his decision to marry her was not based on physical appearance but rather on divine direction and spiritual conviction.

He began, “If sight was leading me, I wouldn’t marry my wife. I told my children the other day and they were all laughing. And she told them herself.

He continued, “Why? Because at that time, she never cared for nothing. She just was anyhow. That is, medical student: didn’t care for anything. The hair was plaited mat permanently. She wore any dress available: shapeless.”

Dr Becky Enenche, who was captured sitting in front of the congregation, laughed and corroborated his account, revealing that she wore mostly A-line skirts and jump-up sleeves when they met.
Pastor Paul Enenche added that,
“There were flashy people around — very flashy. They were also spiritual and flashy. But God led otherwise.
Admonishing his congregation, he said, “Not everything that looks good in the moment has a future.”

The comment has since gone viral, stirring a mix of reactions online. While some of his supporters interpreted the statement as a powerful message about prioritizing divine guidance over superficial traits in marriage, others found the remark dismissive and potentially embarrassing to his wife.

Critics on social media argue that although the intention may have been to show the value of spiritual discernment in choosing a life partner, the phrasing came off as unflattering and disrespectful, especially considering his wife’s unwavering support throughout his ministry.

Pastor Paul Enenche and his wife, Becky Enenche née Inyangbe Ibu got married in 1994. Their union is blessed with four children.